“I want to date but where?” “How?” Any grown men out there a quivering ball of nerves unexpectedly found in the dating world with a set of skills that you learned in your teens and twenties?
Well you are very smart to be re-considering your approach. Neither you nor her are the same people you were then (thank goodness, right?!) and the same rules do not apply. How will you find her is a great place to start our dialog.
Years ago, it was more likely to be work, church, college or a bar. Now, circumstance and technology has changed our options. Start with on-line dating resources like Match.com, OKCupid, EHarmony, Plenty of Fish as ONE element in your bag of tricks. I like Match because of its flexibility and ease of “sorting”.
Write a profile that is genuine, honest, shows some spunk and personality. If you want a woman that has class, is articulate, and educated – then make sure those elements come through in your description. Invest a hundred bucks in the On-line Dating Profile Review and have me review it, select photos, edit text, add some chemistry building aspects. This will not only improve your response rates, but save you time in responding down paths that are dead ends.
Next look at your activities.
The most comfortable, spontaneous relationships spring up when you are doing something you enjoy, especially with a group and you meet someone doing the same. Challenge yourself to do one new thing this week/weekend. Here is a way to spark your interest, go to Meetup.com – don’t be shy, it’s not about dating, its about doing stuff that you like with people from your area. Bring in the big guns. Consider investing in a individualized matchmaking service for custom tailored results.
I speak from the heart here, because I was a client long before I had a professional affiliation with one.
And remember, the way to attract the most attractive “her” starts with YOU.
And who better to give you the “insider information” than a woman? What happens next? A Personal Image Consultant shows up to
- show you the colors, the fabrics, the styles and the accessories that will place you firmly in your best light
- Offer my perspective on dating questions, on line profile review, even my “mock date” for unique feedback
- Help you acquire the pieces you need to look exactly like the person she WANTS to date
I am a Personal Image Consultant and a J Hilburn Stylist, Trainer and Recruiter
I bring confidence, organization, efficiency to your life.